What do I know from parenting? I can’t even get my furry four-legged child to behave and have to just keep repeating  “This is why we can’t have nice things!”

What I do know if terrific writing and the most helpful advice for nearly every situation—communication. My friend Kindred Howard’s book, Cavemen in Babyland, is filled not only with sage advice but also with humor and observant anecdotes from his own family experiences.

The underlying message is about strength and open communication between mom and dad, the two-headed cornerstone of a family. It’s about remembering that mommy and daddy love each other and that “baby time” is not all they will ever know again in their lives. It’s about understanding that men and women, even those in the closest relationship possible, won’t always see eye to eye … forget the Mars and Venus thing; it’s because men are cavemen. (I see many women out there nodding their heads.)

Even someone who doesn’t have kids, doesn’t plan on having any in the foreseeable future, or had them so long ago it seems like another lifetime, will find this book entertaining and insightful to read. It’s like a two-hundred-page stand-up routine about preparing to have kids, going through the process of their arrival, and then dealing with them being in your life. But it’s a routine filled with valuable lessons from the trenches.

And Kindred has been in those trenches—he and his lovely wife, Meredith, have five (yes, five) children.

Excerpt: Undiapered babies aren’t like trained marksmen aiming to take out a carefully selected target. No, they’re more like green berets with orders to wipe out an entire enemy camp. “Poop on ’em all and let God sort ’em out!” A first-time dad is a sitting duck. It takes time to master the art of the quick diaper change. Sure, he did all right on that doll in parenting class. But that doll didn’t flail, scream, and kick the petroleum jelly out of his hand every time he tried to gift-wrap its loins.

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